As much as we like to believe that as individuals we have unlimited capacity–for fun and excitement, for work, for learning–the truth is that at some point, we top out or run into a wall. Miraculous as we human beings are, there is a built-in, self-protective mechanism that says, “...
I had a rambling discussion yesterday with my daughter during which we agreed that it is a great thing when we can share our observations openly with someone, including all the interesting complexity, contradictions, and emotional component, without that person reducing the observations into a narro...
In general, we’re brought up by our parents and taught in schools to be risk-adverse. We’re taught to behave in a conforming, predictable way, following rules so that we will get expected results and not alarm anyone. This is also reinforced in most workplaces by managers and coworkers, ...
When my daughter was a baby, my husband confessed to feeling quite useless for the first couple of months. It wasn’t until she began responding with smiles and gurgles that he felt like a true father. Recently, a longitudinal study by researchers at University of Oxford, Milton Keynes Communit...
When I started in my career (and earlier on in my personal life,) I did not give trust willingly or easily. I felt that others had to earn my trust, and until they deserved it, I wasn’t going to give it. While this worked fine in general back then, it did require that I be […]
I was feeling like something is missing from this brand spanking newly redesigned, smells-like-it-just-came-from-the-factory, website, and then I got it! My own Favorites List page where I can post about things that I’m excited about and want to share that may or may not have anything to do wi...
The individuals who end up engaging me as a coach are generally highly ambitious, capable, and well-respected in their fields. They seek out coaching due less to a sense of failure or incapacity, but more due to their recognition that asking for help will not diminish them in any way. I believe th...
I was asked recently about the efficacy of online dating, and for those of you who read my blog, you already know that I have a lot of reservations about online dating. Instead, I want to suggest an alternative that cuts out a lot of neurotic behaviors and should be a lot more fun. If […]
How he lit up my life with his stories and drawings–stark and funny and sad and defiant and passionate. My daughter’s face in deep concentration as she studied the pages of the Nutshell Library, and three-year-old voice singing, “boiled up a pot, of chicken soup, and swallowed it...
Happy spring, everyone! Here is something to stir you and your partner up and get out of the winter doldrums: Talk about what may be hidden in your memory bank about shared experiences, what you’ve been thinking about but haven’t said to each other, and even what you haven’t given ...