It’s really difficult to look at yourself with any objectivity when you’re you.
It’s why we don’t easily take the lessons learned from others and say: “yeah, that’s exactly what I’m going through so I’m gonna take that advice you’re so kindly offering me!” If we were able to do that, there would not be a need to learn from our own mistakes.
No, we’re human beings, and objectivity is easier described than adopted. We need to go through the dirty business of acting out according to our individuality, background, experiences, triggers, desires, fears. Even smart and accomplished people (like banking executives, stockbrokers, or medical doctors, for example) can think in convoluted ways in certain areas of their lives, sometimes acting a little like Hyde to their Jeckyll.
That said, it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn to be more objective than we are right now–to get better at seeing how what we’ve been doing something is working, is postponing something, or is simply wacko and will bite us later.
So what to do? What to do?
Some of us have people to whom we can turn for trustworthy perspective and who would tell us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear. Many of us don’t.
If you don’t, a great solution is for you to cultivate someone to be that objective voice. Alternatively, find and hire a skilled coach who’s trained to to be that objective voice (operative word being “skilled.”) It can save you a lot of heartache, confusion, and treading time in quagmires.