Love

Bicycle Love

I’ve always had the attitude that my bike is just a workhorse:  usually a second-hand vehicle to get me from one place to another, maybe not a perfect fit for me, but there when you need it.  When necessary, I’ll fix a punctured tube and put a little grease on the chain. Being someone ...

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Maurice Sendak

How he lit up my life with his stories and drawings–stark and funny and sad and defiant and passionate.  My daughter’s face in deep concentration as she studied the pages of the Nutshell Library, and three-year-old voice singing, “boiled up a pot, of chicken soup, and swallowed it...

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Get to Re-Know You

Happy spring, everyone! Here is something to stir you and your partner up and get out of the winter doldrums: Talk about what may be hidden in your memory bank about shared experiences, what you’ve been thinking about but haven’t said to each other, and even what you haven’t given ...

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Reciprocity of a (Seesaw) Relationship

In thinking about how friction is handled within a relationship, I came up with the seesaw (or teeter-totter) analogy, but one where the fulcrum supporting the seats can move up or down, and the seesaw platform can also move 360 degrees. If you could imagine two people in a relationship, either at t...

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It’s You I Want, Not Your Persona

When I arrived at college, I was tough. Not nearly as tough as Lisbeth Salander, but tough nonetheless.  Being in a vulnerable position economically, class-wise, racially, and sexually as a young person either withers one or makes one develop a hard exterior.  It’s easy to maintain that hard...

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